Hello. I see you're very busy, but maybe you'll have time for some help? I have pretty bad anxiety, and I just got this new job where nobody is very nice to me. I'm younger than anyone else who works there, and they make a big deal out of undermining any good things I do. It makes me suuuuuuper anxious to go into work. I'm not sure what to do, because I need the money to pay bills, but I'm so nervous to go into work each day that I feel sick. What do I do, John? Sorry to bother you!

@Anonymous

JOHN: that is not a good situation to be in at all!

JOHN: someone disliking you and undermining you because of age is just wrong! 

JOHN: if possible i’d suggest going to someone above them like your boss to see if they can help you out.

JOHN: some people are just mean, so if going to the boss doesn’t work then it would be best to try to separate yourself from the others as much as possible until they stop treating you so bad.

1 day ago with 14 notes

Okay, this is the third time I'm going to send this. It might have been deleted, or not gotten to, I'm not springing right to "hey why did you ignore my ask??". Regardless of whether my mother is actually emotionally abusive, she tends to bully and place the blame for a lot of things on me, as well as twisting my words and actions to fit her being the victim. I would just like some kind words from anyone, really, at this point, just so I can get through living with her.

@Anonymous

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cC: Anon, t)(is is very abusive! it s)(ould not be taken lig)(tly, but i understand your need for comfort.

cC: T)(at sounds an AWFUL lot like gaslighting if s)(e’s trying to c)(ange your perception of events to make you feel guilty or invalidate your -E-ELINGS. And efin if I’m mistaken, s)(e s)(ould listen to you and take responsibility for )(er own actions. S)(e is an adult, after all.

cC: No one deserves to be treated t)(at way, ever. t)(ere’s no excuse for it.

cC: Please know t)(at t)(ere are s)(orely people in t)(is world w)(o care about you, even if s)(e doesn’t.

((Mod Note: We apologize for your wait and I’m sorry it took so many times for your question to get answered. I would have had this answered a few weeks ago but I, as well as a lot of the mods on this blog, have been terribly busy. We are never trying to ignore anyone, however the new “Inbox clearing Tuesday” can inadvertently cause this to happen. Sorry for the inconvenience!)) 

2 days ago with 36 notes

A few months ago I lost a really close friend, and I still don't know what changed in our relationship that made everything fall apart. I've kept it out of my head and been fine, but I just found something she gave to me and everything just started coming back and I'm really hurting right now and I could use some comforting words :'(

@Anonymous

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GG: i know how it feels to lose someone close to you but you have to understand this kind of thing happens and its not the end of the world! there are billions of people on the planet and there are so many that youre going to meet and bond with and one day she will just be a distant memory and thats probably for the best besides you still have other people who care for you so dont waste your time thinking about what could have been and go spend time with them! if the thing that she gave you brings back painful memories i would suggest hiding it away or getting rid of it entirely

(Talksprite here)

2 days ago with 21 notes

Hey, canyou send solluxofrose some nice anons? im one of his school friends, and he has been feeling pretty down lately. he likes nepeta,sollux,and dave. thank you!

@Anonymous

We sure can. Go on and send some send anons!

3 days ago with 2 notes

Excuse me, can you please send nice anons to pyralsnout's ask? I'm worried he might be feeling depressed and could use the support. Thank you and have a nice day!

@Anonymous

Everybody go and send some positive anons!

3 days ago with 8 notes

Hey I just could really use some words of good luck from anyone really, I started a blog for my art today, in the hopes I can use that to make enough money on commissions to keep paying rent, but so far it's been really quiet and I'm scared I'm not going to be able to go through with this. Can either Doc Scratch or Dirk tell me everything is going to go smoothly?

@highblooded-artist

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TT: I would love to tell you that everything will go smoothly, But in life there will be some hardships with the things you do, but you’ve got to work through them.

TT: But I’m not trying to deter you from anything at all. I’m sure you’ll do fine. Even some of the best things started off rocky, You’ve just got to remember not to give up.

TT: If you put yourself out there and give it time, I’m sure you’ll start getting some traffic, Just remember not to get discouraged if it doesn’t work out 

3 days ago with 20 notes

Karkat, I'm struggling my gender identity right now, and I was wondering if you could assure me that it's okay to want to be a boy who does 'girl' things?

@deadanne

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CG: IT IS PERFECTLY ACCEPTABLE TO DO “GIRL” THINGS AS A GUY. EVEN IF A LOT OF PEOPLE SAY OTHERWISE, IT’S PERFECTLY NORMAL TO DO! 

CG: THERE A PLENTY OF PEOPLE WHO IDENTIFY AS A BOY AND DO THINGS THAT PEOPLE MIGHT PERCEIVE AS FEMININE. DON’T EVER THINK THAT IT’S NOT OKAY, BECAUSE IT IS.

CG: REMEMBER, DOING WHAT YOU WANT MAKES YOU HAPPY. SO IF YOU WANT TO DO GIRL THINGS, THEN GO DO GIRL THINGS.

3 days ago with 52 notes

uhh, hey!! could we maybe get some nice messages sent to tumblr user vantasarcastic?? she's been feeling kinda down... (if it helps any, she really likes getting in-characters anonymous messages)

@Anonymous

We sure can! Let’s go and try to cheer them up!

3 days ago with 3 notes

(pretty fucking urgent!) So, yesterday, i told my crush i liked her. i dont know what i was expecting, but it wasnt nothing. let me repeat that. i told her i liked her as more than a friend, ad she said "okay" i dont know why this is bothering me so much, but it is, and i could really use a pick me up.

@Anonymous

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CG: I’M REALLY SORRY ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED, AND I UNDERSTAND YOU NEED A PICK ME UP, BUT ALSO WE NEED TO ADDRESS THE WAY YOU’RE REACTING TO YOUR FLUSH-CRUSH’S FUCKING REACTION. 

CG: YOU SAID YOURSELF YOU DIDN’T KNOW WHAT TO FUCKING EXPECT, SO MAYBE YOUR CRUSH DIDN’T KNOW EITHER? I DON’T KNOW THE CONTEXT OF THE SITUATION BUT, DAMN, SOMETIMES IF YOU SPRING A BIG CONFESSION ON SOMEONE, IT CAN SHOCK THEM PRETTY FUCKING TERRIBLY I MEAN IF YOU AREN’T EXPECTING SOMEONE TO SAY THAT, ESPECIALLY IF YOU’RE VERY CLOSE FRIENDS WITH SOMEONE, IT CAN SCARE THE SHIT OUT OF THEM SHORT TERM. 

CG: SO THEY WERE PROBABLY SHOCKED, THEY COULDN’T FIND WORDS BECAUSE HOLY SHIT SUCKING HELL THAT CAN CATCH SOMEONE OFF GUARD. 

CG: THERE’S ALSO THE POSSIBILITY THAT SHE WAS SIMPLY SCARED TO REJECT YOU OUTRIGHT, EITHER BECAUSE SHE DOESN’T WANT TO HURT YOUR FEELINGS, OR BECAUSE SHE’S HAD A BAD EXPERIENCE IN THE PAST. A LOT OF PEOPLE FEEL REALLY ENTITLED TO A RELATIONSHIP IF THEY HAVE FEELINGS FOR SOMEONE, EVEN THOUGH NOBODY IS REQUIRED TO LIKE THEM BACK, AND CAN SOMETIMES GET ANGRY OR EVEN VIOLENT WHEN REJECTED.

CG: IT MIGHT HELP TO REASSURE HER THAT YOU WON’T BE UPSET IF SHE DOESN’T FEEL THE SAME WAY, THAT YOU RESPECT HER RIGHT TO SAY NO IF SHE WANTS TO, AND PROMISE THAT YOU CAN STILL BE FRIENDS EITHER WAY.

CG: THE REASON IT’S BOTHERING YOU IS BECAUSE YOU WEREN’T VALIDATED IN YOUR FEELINGS, IN EITHER A POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE WAY. YOU WEREN’T ACCEPTED OR REJECTED FLAT OUT, IT WAS JUST NEUTRAL, YOU DON’T KNOW HOW THEY FUCKING FEEL ABOUT IT AND THAT’S A COMPLETELY RATIONAL FEELING TO HAVE! THIS PERSON IS GOING TO PROBABLY BE STUMPED FOR A LITTLE WHILE, THINK IT OVER, FIGURE EVERYTHING OUT, AND THEN TELL YOU EXACTLY HOW THEY FEEL. 

CG: SO DON’T GIVE UP HOPE, AND DON’T FEEL BAD. LOVE AND AFFECTION ARE NOTHING TO BE FUCKING ASHAMED OF. GOOD LUCK.

4 days ago with 33 notes

can you send some Nice anons to constantlydrawingablank? they are having a really shitty night and they need something nice,

@the-third-grump

Why certainly! We’ll get right on that

4 days ago with 6 notes