is my one year anniversary of reading homestuck
is my one year anniversary of reading homestuck
Hi. So I'm having some problems. So I have no idea what my gender is and I would really enjoy some help with that. It would be awesome if nepeta or dave helped me out. Thanks!
:33 < that can be a very difurcult situation to be in, but its completely normal!
:33 < it will purrobably take some time to figure it out
:33 < purrhaps you are both genders, neither, or trans!
:33 < but whatevfur you figure out is your gender, its purrfect beclaws its you!
Hey Karkat, I need some advice from a leader. The science group I'm in consists of 75% silly people who won't do any work. (The remaining 25% is me.) They keep screwing with the project we're working on (it's a powerpoint, so changing the theme, background color, etc.) while I'm trying to get things done. Any advice on the matter? (Also, how do you STAND leading 11 other 6 sweeps? I'm having trouble with three!)
FIRST, TALK TO THE TEACHER. EXPLAIN HOW LITTLE EVERYONE ELSE IS DOING AND TRY TO GET THEM TO CONTROL THE REST OF YOUR GROUP.
IF YOU’RE DOING THE PROJECT ON SEPARATE COMPUTERS, COULD YOU DO IT ON YOUR OWN COMPUTER AND IGNORE ANY CHANGES THEY MAKE?
STILL, IT’S FUCKING UNFAIR THAT YOU HAVE TO DO SO MUCH WORK. MAYBE YOUR TEACHER CAN PUT YOU IN A DIFFERENT GROUP?
(I DON’T HANDLE IT.)
Hey, um, this is kind of unimportant, but I keep a pet spider in my locker, and lately people have been crowding around it and I've heard rumors that people are trying to kill her! This is really disturbing to me because I'm really attached to this spider, and I don't want to go to check up on her to see her dead. People know how to pick the locks at my school too, so theres almost no form of security for my poor spider! I'm freaking out about this! Can I get help from a Serket please?
You’re pro8a8ly going to want to move the spider.
First of all, spiders are crafty cr8tures. Just like you wouldn’t want to find her dead in your locker, you wouldn’t want to find her missing from it. She might hitch a ride on your school8ooks, climb out when you open it, or just escape some other way.
Secondly, if it’s widely known that you’re housing a spider in your locker, especially if it’s a 8ig one, you’re going to freak some people out. People get screamy around spiders. Eventually someone’s going to get fed up and tell some adult and they’ll pro8a8ly make you take the spider outside.
So unless you’ve taught her to sit, stay, heel, you might want to transport her out while you’re ahead.
hi, could I get karkat or aradia to answer?? I recently cut off ties with someone who I was in a borderline toxic relationship with. But recently it seems like she's been getting better about being aware of other peoples feelings, and it seems like she really does want to be friends with me again, and I really do believe people can change. At the same time I'm terrified that I'll just feel awful while being around her again because she might not have changed. What should I do??
being constantly terrified that your friend will start to behave like she used to again might not be the best feeling to enter a friendship with. people can certainly change!
but you are not required to witness or help with that change and you are not required to give them a second chance
if you have too many bad feelings, dont beat yourself up for not talking to them! its ok!
and if you want to give them another chance maybe make sure you have a strong support group of other friends
hey, sorry if you have this queued, but i haven't seen it answered in a while so- here i go again. equius.i've just been feeling really bad lately. like depressed and such. i'm planning to wear a chest binder this year and i pretend i'm not nervous and i'm not worried about the social output but i am. sorry if this doesn't make much sense but basically i feel bad and i'm nervous and i'm scared i won't be strong enough to make through freshman year. that's all..
D —> First of all
D —> There is nothing wrong with what you are doing
D —> It is certainly no more bizarre than any number of other human practices I am aware of
D —> Rest assured, you are STRONG enough
D —> There is nothing wrong with being afraid of how you will be treated
D —> Indeed, there are times when our peers are entirely unfair
D —> Even I, with my highb100d status and eminent STRONGNESS, have been called names which are too crass to grace my cultured utterances
D —> And though I try not to whinny about it
D —> Even I can become worried about facing such social degradation
D —> What is the human e%pression?
D —> When you fall off the horse, you must get back on
D —> How 100d
D —> But true
I don't feel like a boy or a girl at all. I like "they" pronouns best but i feel like a pain asking people to use them so i usually just go by my biological gender. Most days it just kinda stings but other days (like today for example) it makes me so uncomfortable i want to cry. I go to a public high school and i wouldn't feel safe or comfortable asking people to accommodate me but thinking about it is just a really painful reminder of the fact that no one recognizes my identity
You know what? I like “they” pronouns, too.
And in my case, it actually has nothing to do with identity. It just so happens that modern English has a few holes in it. One of which is filled by use of the singular “they”.
(Another hole that could stand to be plugged is dealing with that really cumbersome “all of you” nonsense that English professors seem to think is somehow superior to a neologism which means the same thing but is comprised of only one syllable and is understood by nearly all western English speakers. But let’s not dive headlong into that particular rabbit hole today.)
Not only is it handy for when you don’t know the gender of whoever you’re talking about, but it’s perfect for all your non-binary needs as well.
They, as a pronoun, has literally zero gender implications and can be used to talk about anyone and the ONLY thing it means is that they are a person.
See what I did there?
I think that keeping this in mind and making grammar the subject of discussion can keep some interactions from getting too dramatic.
I get that you’re not sure how people will react, but you’re not asking for anything even remotely unreasonable. It’s damn near the epitome of polite requests and it’s important to you.
You don’t deserve to be treated in a way that makes you feel bad.
Acknowledging a person’s identity is basic fucking courtesy. Anyone who has a problem with something so fundamental is likely to be pretty shitty overall.
I understand that it can be hard to speak up about this, but it’s possible that you don’t need to worry all that much.
Maybe getting every teacher to address you in a way you feel comfortable with is more than you’re going to get, but at the very least talk to the people you hang with. not just friends (who I am going to assume are completely cool with however you want to identify, becasue they fucking better be) but anyone you know well enough to have a conversation with.
I can’t really say how this particular situation will play out, but I can tell you that things will get better. I don’t know how long it will be, but if you take heart, there will be hope for the future.
People are fighting for that future, and maybe one day you will be one of those people. You don’t have to, but I’ve got a feeling that you’ve got what it takes.
Next year i'm supposed to go to Anime Expo with my best friend. I had told him that I wanted to cosplay as a genderbend karkat. He smiled but didn't say anything till 5 minutes later he said: 'I hate karkat cosplayers. they just never look right.' (I always supported him with his different cosplay ideas) after that day I started to doubt myself and decided to not cosplay at all. I don't know what to do especially since my dad already paid for the passes. Karkat can you give me some advice?
CG: WHAT DO YOU MEAN THEY HATE KARKAT COSPLAYERS? I’M FUCKING *GREAT* MOST OF THE TIME.
CG: IN ALL SERIOUSNESS, FUCK THAT. COSPLAY WHO YOU WANT, HOW YOU WANT, AND IF ANYONE GETS IN YOUR WAY, DON’T BE AFRAID TO BYPASS THEM.
CG: COSPLAY IS FUN, COSPLAY ISN’T A COMPETITION, OR SERIOUS AT ALL. IF SOMEONE IS TAKING THE ACT OF COSPLAYING SERIOUSLY, STAY AWAY FROM THEM, YOU’RE PROBABLY REALLY SHITTY.
CG: YOU CAN TAKE YOUR *COSPLAY* SERIOUSLY, AND TRY TO BE THE BEST YOU CAN BE, BUT TAKING THE ENTIRE ACT OF DRESSING UP LIKE A CHARACTER SERIOUSLY IS NOT GOOD.
CG: YOU CAN COSPLAY WHOEVER YOU FUCKING WANT, JUST BECAUSE YOU AREN’T SOMEONE’S HEADCANON KARKAT DOESN’T MEAN YOU’RE *NOBODY’S* HEADCANON KARKAT.
CG: IF HE DECIDES TO HATE YOU OVER A COSTUME, TO HELL WITH THAT ASSBAG.
CG: YOU CAN DO IT.
(ooc: yooooo Mod Pineapple will ALSO be at anime expo and I will be cosplayin regular karkat there so if you see me make sure to come over and get a hug and some pictures!!)
I've been cutting for a while despite not being depressed, a very good friend of mine has been helping me in trying to stop, but it's hard and I don't think it shouldn't be hard for me because I'm not depressed. Karkat or Dirk for advice?
CG: JUST BECAUSE YOU’RE NOT DEPRESSED DOESN’T MEAN IT’S NOT FUCKING HARD TO OVERCOME AN ADDICTION.
CG: THAT’S RIGHT, ALMOST ALL FORMS OF SELF HARM ARE ADDICTIONS. AND IT’S ABSOLUTE SHIT.
CG: THE BEST ADVICE I CAN GIVE YOU IS COMPLETELY REMOVE WHAT YOU USE TO HURT YOURSELF. IF YOU’RE USING RAZOR BLADES, STOP SHAVING FOR A MONTH, IF ANYBODY CARES, KICK THEIR ASS.
CG: IF YOU GET THE URGE, TRY TO USE A COPING METHOD. MUSIC IS GREAT, TAKE A HOT SHOWER.
CG: OR A COLD SHOWER.
CG: BAKE OR COOK SOMETHING. IT’S A WEIRD SUGGESTION, BUT FOCUSING ON COOKING SOMETHING CAN BE REALLY FUCKING THERAPEUTIC.
CG: PET A CAT, OR A DOG, TAKE A NAP, GO FOR A FUCKING WALK IF IT’S SAFE. WRITE A POEM, WRITE YOUR FEELINGS. TRY USING SPACE EMAIL, YOU CAN WRITE IT ALL AND SEND IT OUT UNDER ANY NAME YOU LIKE, AND IT’S A LOT OF FUN TOO!
CG: TRY TO GET BETTER. RECOVERY IS A LONG AND SLOW PROCESS. IF YOU RELAPSE, IT’S NOT A BIG FUCKING DEAL. IT DOESN’T MEAN THAT RECOVERY IS IMPOSSIBLE, OR SOME WEIRD MADE UP FANTASY.
CG: YOU CAN DO IT, I BELIEVE YOU CAN WITH ALL OF MY MIGHT.
CG: I LOVE YOU, AND I WANT YOU TO GET BETTER.